The eighties was a decade remembered not only for hip-hop, but for the emergence of the independant woman. The title "The Ladies of the Eighties" was synonymous for women who made their own money, paid their own bills and played the game as well as any man.
The birth of the new woman seemed to be the demise of the gentleman. Men stopped doing things for women like opening doors, and paying for lunch. If women wanted to do it all on their own, men were going to let them.
When Babyface came out with the hit "As Soon As I Get Home From Work," it made a lot of men angry. In that song, Babyface offered to do what women had been wanting from men for a while, and they soon began to ask for it. Feeling the pressure, a new emergence of caring men popped up calling themselves spoiling females.
May I ask what is it a person can do for another that would be considered spoiling?
Is it not common curteousy to call when you're running late, or to help with the housework when your woman has a job too? What about talking to her like the queen that she is instead of calling her a bitch? Is it too much to be honest and faithful? Have you ever volunteered to watch the kids and let her have some time off?
If you do these things, that's good. But, don't start trying to mack by saying that you like to spoil women. It took me a while to realize it, but that is not being spoiled...that is being treated right.
For too long, we have accepted second class treatment from men to be able to say that we were about something. The reason why we hear so often "all men are dogs," "there's no such thing as a good man," or "men don't know how to treat a lady" is because we have allowed it. If we expect second class treatment, why would anyone go out of their way to offer more?
Ladies have been fooled into thinking that if a man acts like a gentleman, he is spoiling her. We need to get rid of that mindset. Women need to demand respect; most of these so called playas out here are really just playing a role. Their mamas taught them manners, it's just that no one is making them use them anymore.
There are a lot of good men around. I know, I have one. Does he spoil me? No. He treats me with respect; the way we all deserve to be treated.
